I really liked this passage from Osho on compassion, especially the part about love. Love is unbound, unchained, unconditional given freely with no contract or expectation as a return, nothing to prop the ego, given even though nothing comes back and despite negativity. Only then is it love and not as Kant says ‘to use others as a means’.
To all my children, know that I love you.
What is Compassion? – Osho
I remember when the schools would break up and I’d collect you both from school, very excited to be facing those long six weeks away from school. We’d try to fit something in most days when I had leave from work, beach, fishing, kite flying, trips off etc. Then there were times when we went abroad trips in the camper and camping. Fun days so I expect you will be looking forward now to the break but perhaps not doing what we did then as you are so much older now. In any event I hope you enjoy whatever it is you have planned and come back refreshed for your new challenges having both left school now you’re 16 and 18. My thoughts will be with you as always, all my love, Dad.
Do you both remember when we used to go kite flying at Allonby? You had a yellow kite with a huge long tail Mogs, that you got the hang of and yours was a stunt kite Kee, that was a bit more difficult to handle and used to come crashing down. I would go back and forward between you both, getting them airborne again. Don’t know what happened to the yellow kite but I still have the stunt kite whenever you fancy flying it again. We would finish with an ice cream from Twentymens just to round things off on those hot and windy days. xx
Hello Kee and Mogs,
I expect you will be nearly through your exams now and probably feeling a mixture of stress and anticipation of the end and the desire to do well. These are all emotions to be expected and I hope you are coping well with this and can channel that nervous energy into getting the job done. If you can set aside your looking to the future and focus on the exam in the present this would be best use of your energy. Strong desire to do well will only distract you from achieving a good outcome. So my thoughts and love are with you during this time, stick in and don’t be too hard on yourselves.
We used to have a very large Camper van or mobile home which I used to use to take you camping. One afternoon after having packed it all up ready for departure I’d left Morgan on her own playing in it. Unbeknown to me you had picked up a strip of travel sickness pills and were chomping your way through them when I found you. Probably just a precaution but when I took you to A&E rather than spending a night on a pleasant camp site we both spent all night on the children’s ward whilst you were being observed!